The Life Doctor

self worth

Out of Control

As my heart raced I clenched my fists trying to control the incoming panic attack which was threatening to take me over. I could feel my skin becoming hot and prickly and the knot in my gut get hard and bigger as a I tried not to think about how weird I must look to everyone stood around me. What was the problem? I was only in a pub with friends so why the anxiety? God I am going mad, like really mad. It didn’t make any sense at all ...

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Not Good Enough?

The reality is quite simple really. If you keep indulging in the tricks of the mind which hold you back from getting what you want in life then someone else will simply come along and take what could have been yours. Apathy, complacency and procrastination are simple but effective techniques your mind will use to get you to avoid taking risks which might result in rejection, shame and embarrassment.  ”I’m not good enough,” is the ultimate trick of the mind we all can fall for and limit ourselves with. Isn’t it ...

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6 Harsh Realities of Weight loss

1. Scooby Doo? Have you been conditioned like a dog to wanting cheap crappy chocolate treats?  Remind yourself you are not a dog and if you really want something to make yourself feel good then choose something that reflects your self worth.  You are much better and worth much more than a few pence on the crap where you are just tasting the salt and sugar.  "But I need my comfort food!" says the lady regressing back to being a baby....lets get those parts to grow up shall we, or ...

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Ramblings On The Mind

Whatever you blame yourself for. Whatever you feel guilty about. Whatever you beat yourself up over. I want you to know something. It was not your fault. We don’t have freewill as proclaimed by some. Your brain evolved the way it has to keep you safer. Programmed by society, culture, parents and more. You are not in control of your thoughts. You are not in control of your feelings. No matter how much you think you should be None of us are no matter how we might seem to be. You do though have to take responsibility for what you think, say ...

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Personally Deluded

“I take everything so personally,” my new client said.  “Can you help me become more confident and not so paranoid when it comes to what people think of me?” “Do you think we are all judging you?” I asked. “Yeah, I am always wondering what people think of me and I worry that I am doing something wrong all the time. I know it’s not rational but I can’t help myself.” “ I bet you hate being criticised don’t you?” “Oh god yes, I can’t stand it, makes me feel really shit for days ...

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Getting over Yourself

Let’s make it quite clear even though it may seem a little harsh at first. Not many if any are that interested in you.  So if you do happen to be in any social situation which you feel we are all watching and judging you, the likely hood is we are not.  We are like you mostly lost in our own little bubbles of reality thinking about all sorts of things, we will not really be thinking about you. If by any chance you catch our attention and notice you we will ...

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Caveman Control?

Well it's not about control which does appeal to anxious people but it's more about how do we influence and work with the caveman. Especially when he is being too horny, anxious, angry, stressed or indulging in bad habits which are causing problems? You have to remember that the caveman’s priority is to keep you safe. He also loves to feel important, he loves to feel secure, loved and connected.  He will prioritise these sometimes in what feels like a random way but the reality is that the caveman will do ...

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Your Horny Caveman

Your Horny Caveman Why do some people find it so hard to practise safe sex or even remain faithful? Good intentions can go out the window as soon as someone feels horny.  This powerful sexual urge can get people indulge in things they wouldn’t normally do.  Amazing how many after an orgasm think “What the f*ck was I doing?  Why did I risk my life like that?  I will never do that again!”  (until the next bout of horniness kicks in.) It’s no point me telling them how stupid it was or the ...

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I’m not Good Enough

“Phew I’m tired..maybe I should slow down, I wish this run was over, I don’t think I can do this, how long is left to go?” My first run after a few weeks break is always a tough one and my negative thoughts inner dialogue can go a little crazy. It likes to speed up and get louder so I act now on what it says. But why should I? Thoughts are just thoughts...they are not even real so why believe what they say? The problem most people have is that they believe ...

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Anger, Stress and Anxiety Management

One thing some clients are surprised by is how angry they come across, the anger within influenced their thoughts and  behaviours and they just accepted this as part of their normal behaviour. They often wonder what other peoples problems are with them.  They can also get stuck in the “this is me” trap where they just assume their provocative, self opinionated, reactive and defensive nature was just “who they are.” They had originally come to see me to have their anxiety or lack of confidence worked with as that is what ...

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