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I’m not good Enough

“I'm not good enough.” “Everyone is better than me.” “Why is everyone else more confident than me?” I think it’s easier for our self worth to take a battering now than maybe any other time in our history. We are bombarded with so many altered airbrushed images of perfection which distorts a realistic perception of reality. Social media and television keeps showing us people who are apparently living “that dream life,” and we will naturally compare ourselves with what we see and this can make us feel very bad indeed.  As most people ...

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Wake Up to Self Sabotage

It’s that time of year for a life change as the New Year brings in a symbolic fresh slate yet most of you know that despite best intentions you will give up, not bother and simply avoid what you really would like to get done. Logically and frustratingly you should have no problem getting some of the most common life change people want to make right now. From going to the gym, eating healthier, stopping smoking, job hunting, cleaning out that back room or starting and finishing a life changing project ...

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Crafty Perfection

“I just want to it to be perfect,” Carrie moaned.  “I want my book to not get these types of reviews!” I had looked at the reviews on Amazon and some people have been quite critical to say the least.  Carrie passed me some news clippings with reviews from various book critics, some of those were quite harsh too. Yet despite that her book was selling really well and had remained quite high in the book charts. “You want the book to be perfect?” I asked again. “Yes! I just want better reviews ...

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Proud

I didn’t see them all picking up rocks behind my back as I walked with a gang of “friends” to an isolated field.  As the circle formed around me and the rocks were held ready I should have seen what was coming next. The word “run,” from one lad should have been a clue but my confusion at how it went from all friendly to this made me freeze on the spot like a rabbit caught in the headlights.  “Fucking queer,” came next as the first stones hit me hard, ...

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Health Anxiety

It's very common to worry about and feel anxiety about health issues,  but what can you do when it gets out of hand? “It’s cancer,” my mind whispered to me. “You could have cancer,” it continued. “What then?” it asked.  “You could lose your foot, leg, life!” Images of me having to tell people circled like vultures in my mind. Funerals happened and rewound back to having painful operations or chemotherapy. In between going to the Dr’s and seeing his face of concern for the mole on my foot and the hospital ...

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Anger, Stress and Anxiety Management

One thing some clients are surprised by is how angry they come across, the anger within influenced their thoughts and  behaviours and they just accepted this as part of their normal behaviour. They often wonder what other peoples problems are with them.  They can also get stuck in the “this is me” trap where they just assume their provocative, self opinionated, reactive and defensive nature was just “who they are.” They had originally come to see me to have their anxiety or lack of confidence worked with as that is what ...

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Top Ten Self Worth Destroyers

Top Ten Self Worth Destroyers Believing you are the negatives from your past Creating a false negative future about yourself and believing it to be true Picking and nagging at yourself or others Being in a negative relationship which enforces the idea that there is something wrong with you Believing there is something wrong with you Being rejected by the people you are trying to force into believing your version of reality Being who others expect you to be and not being who you want to be Masking the pain of the past with unhealthy habits Fighting yourself and ...

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Anxiety and the flake

Are you a flake or do you have flaky friends? Anxiety is a growing problem in the Brighton and due to the amount of clients in the past few years suffering with anxiety I have noticed a few patterns one of which is the subject of this blog. A section of people suffering with anxiety are flakes. The term flake not only refers to a chocolate bar which just fall apart when trying to eat it, but also refers to a behaviour pattern which can feed anxiety.  If you are experiencing anxiety or ...

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Anxiety Tips Part 2

As The Life Doctor, in my office in Brighton & Hove I see a lot of clients who are suffering with anxiety, stress, depression, negative thoughts and other nervous disorders which are making their lives a misery.  This is the second part to the anxiety tips series and you can read the first part below this one.  Your comments would be most welcome.  If you would like a full copy in PDF format of anxiety tips then please contact me here. Here are some more tips to help you change your ...

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Anxiety and Stress

The main issue I treat in Brighton & Hove are anxiety and stress related issues, this can deeply affect the way someone feels about and lives their life. I have compiled below some simple tips to think about and act on if you feel you are feeling stressed or anxious.  It is amazing how much difference they can make when it comes to how you feel.  If you have any other tips or observations then please feel free to add to the comments section. Anxiety is caused by part of the brain called ...

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