Rejection is Brilliant
The Brilliance of Rejection!
A man with a machete looking angrily at you is dangerous
A crocodile eyeing you up for lunch is dangerous
A car out of control coming towards you is dangerous
Your brain will kick in the adrenaline fuelled process fight or flight if any of these happen and you power diverted from your brain, digestive system, immune system and other important functions sent to your arms and legs to tackle the danger or run as fast as possible.
This system has kept our species multiplying and thriving as we evolve.
The thing is now what we are becoming more socially complex we are have developed deep fears not only from real danger but also from experiences which will risk how we feel.
The fear of rejection holds people back in countless ways. Dreams remain unfulfilled, people stay poor in so many areas of their lives, possibilities and potential are wasted and the list goes on.
I even hear people make excuses to why they are running away from an experience with stories of "not the right time" "destiny must be calling me elsewhere" "How do you know I'm not supposed to hold myself back as a soul purpose?" The best excuses are the ones where people make up all sorts of fantasies about the future where they claim these stories will come true and have to be avoided at all cost.
A load of old balls really as these are just lies to avoid experiencing emotions which feel uncomfortable.
So let's grow up and work on the self realisation that rejection whilst it might feel uncomfortable doesn't actually kill or maim you in any way. Yes it doesn't feel pleasant at first but that soon goes away. Maybe you can assist the feelings that come with rejection by realising that the brilliant things we all love so much in life were all created through rejection and they continue to evolve through people thinking that they could be better and therefore rejecting their current form.
Rejection can lead us to become more resourceful, stronger, wiser, to think outside the box, create more opportunities and create a life which we would never have dreamed of. I look back at all the rejections that have happened and I am thankful for experiencing them as it made me look at other ways to live and that has led to the amazing life I have now. I no longer fear rejection, as soon as it happens my mind is now thinking "what will I get from this and where will it lead?"
As one client mentioned to me "I wouldn't have my husband and the happiness that came with that if I hadn't been rejected by my ex husband."
Think back on rejections you had in the past. Where has it led you? What do you have now in your life through rejection? Did you take advantage of the rejection so it was not wasted?
Instead of fearing rejection, welcome it as a resourceful experience which you will gain a lot from. The opportunities become endless and this is what lucky, charmed, happy and successful people do naturally.
You can learn to do it naturally too through instantly reminding yourself when at risk from rejection that you will benefit hugely and just go ahead with it whatever you are doing.
If the mind tries the old future fantasy routine, then remind yourself that you are making it up and no matter how it feels, it is a lie as it has not happened yet.
If you need extra help with this then contact me for a session on how to embrace rejection!!
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