The Life Doctor

self worth

Do you want to feel more Motivated?

“ I feel guilty if I sit down and do nothing,” is something quite a few clients tell me as they struggle with various forms of relaxing. Yet sitting down and relaxing is one of the most productive things we can do as it recharges our batteries. Without mental and physical energy we can overly procrastinate to try and conserve some for survival reasons.  We should have always have some stored energy for any unexpected needed fight or flight responses. Without recharging we can lack confidence, clarity, focus and motivation to ...

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Out of Control

As my heart raced I clenched my fists trying to control the incoming panic attack which was threatening to take me over. I could feel my skin becoming hot and prickly and the knot in my gut get hard and bigger as a I tried not to think about how weird I must look to everyone stood around me. What was the problem? I was only in a pub with friends so why the anxiety? God I am going mad, like really mad. It didn’t make any sense at all ...

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Turn me Off

The constant stream of intrusive negative thoughts from an over active mind not only feels exhausting it can make you feel like you are going mad too. Distraction doesn’t work, challenging the thoughts is too tiring and trying to get rid of them seems to make them even worse. I remember what that was like, I would have paid anything for someone to switch my mind off so I could just get some peace and quiet and also a good night’s sleep.  There is no way to switch the mind off ...

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Not Good Enough?

The reality is quite simple really. If you keep indulging in the tricks of the mind which hold you back from getting what you want in life then someone else will simply come along and take what could have been yours. Apathy, complacency and procrastination are simple but effective techniques your mind will use to get you to avoid taking risks which might result in rejection, shame and embarrassment.  ”I’m not good enough,” is the ultimate trick of the mind we all can fall for and limit ourselves with. Isn’t it ...

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Rebellion

It seems like we are always being told what to do. Parents, family and partners Teachers, bosses and peers Government, society, culture and religion Lay down some of rules we feel pressurised into obeying through the voice in our heads.  That inner critic, that inner moralist which not only can put us down with self abuse about the way we look and "not being good enough" but also demands reality fits our way of seeing the world or it gets very angry indeed. It gets exhausting listening to this voice, in the end we can ...

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“I’m Struggling.”

When clients tell me they are struggling with a certain area of their life whether it be career, health or relationship goals, they are often surprised at a possible answer as to why they are failing. They will deny this is true at first but with a little digging, it can often be the “holy grail” as to why they end up yet again not succeeding. Sean - “I want you to help me lose 3 stone in weight.” Miranda - “ I want to be a successful singer for a career.” Tony - ...

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Mindfulness

Mindfulness is simply switching your awareness from thoughts focusing on the past or future to what is happening in the present moment. You can become mindful in the present about feelings, emotions, thoughts, taste, touch, smell and what you can see and hear. For me mindfulness is liberating, not only is it incredibly easy to learn from the way I teach it it, but the benefits are invaluable for living this one chance of life that I have.  Mindfulness was the major influence in reducing and managing the anxiety I used ...

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Wake Up to Self Sabotage

It’s that time of year for a life change as the New Year brings in a symbolic fresh slate yet most of you know that despite best intentions you will give up, not bother and simply avoid what you really would like to get done. Logically and frustratingly you should have no problem getting some of the most common life change people want to make right now. From going to the gym, eating healthier, stopping smoking, job hunting, cleaning out that back room or starting and finishing a life changing project ...

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Goal Setting Doesn’t Work

“You need goals,” we are all told if we want to achieve or be more successful in life. “Without goals you will fail.”   The answer to life seems to be goal setting but why are we so terrible at reaching our goals? Then logical reasoning suggests “you need more motivation, discipline and focus to make goals work.”  So the next goal seems to be trying to make yourself kind of perfect so you can reach your desired goals.  This is a horrible trap to get caught up in which can ...

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Faking Perfection

“I feel worthless.” “Everyone is better than me.” “Why is everyone else more confident than me?” I think it’s easier to feel more worthless now than maybe any other time in our history. We are bombarded with so many altered airbrushed images of perfection which distorts a realistic perception of reality. Social media and television keeps showing us people who are apparently living “that dream life,” and we will naturally compare ourselves with what we see and this can make us feel very bad indeed.  As most people wear masks hiding their inner ...

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