The Life Doctor

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Wake Up to Self Sabotage

It’s that time of year for a life change as the New Year brings in a symbolic fresh slate yet most of you know that despite best intentions you will give up, not bother and simply avoid what you really would like to get done. Logically and frustratingly you should have no problem getting some of the most common life change people want to make right now. From going to the gym, eating healthier, stopping smoking, job hunting, cleaning out that back room or starting and finishing a life changing project ...

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Tell Children they are Fat?

"I believe it is time for a few tears and tantrums. Hard news hurts.” - Katie Hopkins. Outrage and debates raged this week due to Katie Hopkins blog and appearance on This Morning as she explained to readers and viewers that the obesity crisis needed some tough love.  Children with weight issues needed to be told directly they were fat so they could then deal with it.  After all 1 in 10 start school with weight issues, Katie then goes on point out school bullies will be less sensitive and taunt ...

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Panic Attack Help

If you have ever had a panic attack then you know just how terrifying it can be as well as feeling utterly powerless when it begins to sweep in.  What is happening on a basic level is somehow the Limbic System which is the survival and emotional centre of the brain is over firing and acting as if you are in extreme danger and cannot escape. Very common on public transport, social or work situations as this is where people feel they are being watched or stuck in a situation ...

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Limbic Training

It’s easy to see why people will do anything not to feel any negative or uncomfortable feelings.  It doesn’t feel nice and as we are creatures of comfort the natural reactive response is to try and distract ourselves with something which does feel good. Food, alcohol, drugs, cigarettes, television and gaming are just a few ways people will use to try to move away from their thoughts which create negative feelings. The problem with this is that the Limbic System is now being trained to see negative thoughts and feelings as ...

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Get Running!

  How many of you wait until you feel in the mood to exercise? Or even find yourself excitedly wanting to get fit but find that motivation disappearing quite quickly? It can be frustrating to have fitness goals or just want to be healthier only to find yourself simply not wanting to bother.  There are some natural reasons for this which include: 1.Your survival instinct 2.Lack of knowledge 3.Believing your thoughts 4.Loneliness  Survival I always feel amazing after a run, yet my mind like many others can convince me to do something else. There are reasons for this ...

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Goal Setting Doesn’t Work

“You need goals,” we are all told if we want to achieve or be more successful in life. “Without goals you will fail.”   The answer to life seems to be goal setting but why are we so terrible at reaching our goals? Then logical reasoning suggests “you need more motivation, discipline and focus to make goals work.”  So the next goal seems to be trying to make yourself kind of perfect so you can reach your desired goals.  This is a horrible trap to get caught up in which can ...

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Motivation Perspective

The Paramedics were doing their best to save someones life on a bus today.  I didn’t stop and gawk at what was happening, I just silently hoped they made it and carried on home.  This was another reminder that we cannot be complacent or apathetic with life.  At any time our lives could change in an instant through health issues, career bombs, death of a loved one or just even ourselves losing our lives or many other life experiences which can roll in unexpectedly. I live my life with the awareness ...

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The Power of You

At the centre of you is one heck of a powerful person. Clear and focused, Relaxed and calm, Resilient and resourceful, Confident and strong, Able to see the bigger picture, Opportunistic and able to see the potential in what is happening around you and so much more. Many of you will say “yeah right, I wish!” but the bottom line is that this is the truth.  At your core you are simply amazing, but what’s muddying the waters are the thoughts you have about yourself and life.  These thoughts are your problem as they dictate how you ...

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Faking Perfection

“I feel worthless.” “Everyone is better than me.” “Why is everyone else more confident than me?” I think it’s easier to feel more worthless now than maybe any other time in our history. We are bombarded with so many altered airbrushed images of perfection which distorts a realistic perception of reality. Social media and television keeps showing us people who are apparently living “that dream life,” and we will naturally compare ourselves with what we see and this can make us feel very bad indeed.  As most people wear masks hiding their inner ...

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Top 5 Mistakes with Anxiety

Here are the top 5 mistakes people make with anxiety: 1. Trying to fight it 2. Trying to distract yourself from it 3. Trying hard to get rid of it 4. Having a go at yourself about it 5. Feeling guilty for having it The reality is this, we all need anxiety, it's there to help us stay one step ahead of life which can be cruel and challenging.  Learning to change your relationship with it will help reduce the power it has which inhibits your life and help motivate you to make better choices and ...

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