The Life Doctor



It seems like we are always being told what to do. Parents, family and partners Teachers, bosses and peers Government, society, culture and religion Lay down some of rules we feel pressurised into obeying through the voice in our heads.  That inner critic, that inner moralist which not only can put us down with self abuse about the way we look and "not being good enough" but also demands reality fits our way of seeing the world or it gets very angry indeed. It gets exhausting listening to this voice, in the end we can ...

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Tell Children they are Fat?

"I believe it is time for a few tears and tantrums. Hard news hurts.” - Katie Hopkins. Outrage and debates raged this week due to Katie Hopkins blog and appearance on This Morning as she explained to readers and viewers that the obesity crisis needed some tough love.  Children with weight issues needed to be told directly they were fat so they could then deal with it.  After all 1 in 10 start school with weight issues, Katie then goes on point out school bullies will be less sensitive and taunt ...

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6 Harsh Realities of Weight loss

1. Scooby Doo? Have you been conditioned like a dog to wanting cheap crappy chocolate treats?  Remind yourself you are not a dog and if you really want something to make yourself feel good then choose something that reflects your self worth.  You are much better and worth much more than a few pence on the crap where you are just tasting the salt and sugar.  "But I need my comfort food!" says the lady regressing back to being a baby....lets get those parts to grow up shall we, or ...

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Personal Training

“I would never have thought about coming to see someone like you,” he said shuffling uncomfortably in the chair as he made his confession.  “I thought people who went to therapists were weak and just needed to pull their socks up.  Don’t get me wrong, I am still sceptical about what you whatever it is and don’t think you can really help, but I thought I would give it a go.” “What made you come to me then?” I asked. “Some of my friends who I thought were sorted admitted they had ...

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Caveman Control?

Well it's not about control which does appeal to anxious people but it's more about how do we influence and work with the caveman. Especially when he is being too horny, anxious, angry, stressed or indulging in bad habits which are causing problems? You have to remember that the caveman’s priority is to keep you safe. He also loves to feel important, he loves to feel secure, loved and connected.  He will prioritise these sometimes in what feels like a random way but the reality is that the caveman will do ...

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The Power of Yes

The word NO has quite a devastating effect on the mind.  (Apologies for what reading this word has done to you).  This powerful word when spoken, thought about or read releases dozens of stress producing chemicals in the brain which effect the effectiveness and rationality of the brain. So is it little wonder that many people fail in changing their lives by using the word NO to try and stop themselves thinking or doing things which are holding back their lives? NO feels quite horrible to have to say doesn’t it? For ...

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