The Life Doctor

anxiety

Do you want to feel more Motivated?

“ I feel guilty if I sit down and do nothing,” is something quite a few clients tell me as they struggle with various forms of relaxing. Yet sitting down and relaxing is one of the most productive things we can do as it recharges our batteries. Without mental and physical energy we can overly procrastinate to try and conserve some for survival reasons.  We should have always have some stored energy for any unexpected needed fight or flight responses. Without recharging we can lack confidence, clarity, focus and motivation to ...

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Mental Health Injury

“It still hurts,” he said twisting his wrist slightly at me to show me the swelling which had greatly reduced but was still an issue. My friend then went through the list of proactive approaches they had been doing to heal themselves after their fall about a month ago, it really showed their determination to getting back to normal. I am sure their dedication would pay off but I wished that more people would be as focused, determined and as compassionate as that on healing the injury that was causing their ...

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Out of Control

As my heart raced I clenched my fists trying to control the incoming panic attack which was threatening to take me over. I could feel my skin becoming hot and prickly and the knot in my gut get hard and bigger as a I tried not to think about how weird I must look to everyone stood around me. What was the problem? I was only in a pub with friends so why the anxiety? God I am going mad, like really mad. It didn’t make any sense at all ...

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Turn me Off

The constant stream of intrusive negative thoughts from an over active mind not only feels exhausting it can make you feel like you are going mad too. Distraction doesn’t work, challenging the thoughts is too tiring and trying to get rid of them seems to make them even worse. I remember what that was like, I would have paid anything for someone to switch my mind off so I could just get some peace and quiet and also a good night’s sleep.  There is no way to switch the mind off ...

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Not Good Enough?

The reality is quite simple really. If you keep indulging in the tricks of the mind which hold you back from getting what you want in life then someone else will simply come along and take what could have been yours. Apathy, complacency and procrastination are simple but effective techniques your mind will use to get you to avoid taking risks which might result in rejection, shame and embarrassment.  ”I’m not good enough,” is the ultimate trick of the mind we all can fall for and limit ourselves with. Isn’t it ...

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Rebellion

It seems like we are always being told what to do. Parents, family and partners Teachers, bosses and peers Government, society, culture and religion Lay down some of rules we feel pressurised into obeying through the voice in our heads.  That inner critic, that inner moralist which not only can put us down with self abuse about the way we look and "not being good enough" but also demands reality fits our way of seeing the world or it gets very angry indeed. It gets exhausting listening to this voice, in the end we can ...

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“I’m Struggling.”

When clients tell me they are struggling with a certain area of their life whether it be career, health or relationship goals, they are often surprised at a possible answer as to why they are failing. They will deny this is true at first but with a little digging, it can often be the “holy grail” as to why they end up yet again not succeeding. Sean - “I want you to help me lose 3 stone in weight.” Miranda - “ I want to be a successful singer for a career.” Tony - ...

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Mindfulness

Mindfulness is simply switching your awareness from thoughts focusing on the past or future to what is happening in the present moment. You can become mindful in the present about feelings, emotions, thoughts, taste, touch, smell and what you can see and hear. For me mindfulness is liberating, not only is it incredibly easy to learn from the way I teach it it, but the benefits are invaluable for living this one chance of life that I have.  Mindfulness was the major influence in reducing and managing the anxiety I used ...

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I’m not good Enough

“I'm not good enough.” “Everyone is better than me.” “Why is everyone else more confident than me?” I think it’s easier for our self worth to take a battering now than maybe any other time in our history. We are bombarded with so many altered airbrushed images of perfection which distorts a realistic perception of reality. Social media and television keeps showing us people who are apparently living “that dream life,” and we will naturally compare ourselves with what we see and this can make us feel very bad indeed.  As most people ...

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Top 5 Mistakes made with Anxiety (updated)

Here are the top 5 mistakes people make with anxiety: 1. Trying to fight it 2. Trying to distract yourself from it 3. Trying hard to get rid of it 4. Having a go at yourself about it 5. Feeling guilty for having it The reality is this, we all need anxiety and stress. They are healthy and are  there to help us stay one step ahead of life which can be cruel and challenging.  Learning to change your relationship with it will help reduce the power it has which inhibits your life and help motivate ...

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