Anxiety, Confidence and The Power of Hypnosis
Many of you reading this may be a little curious as to how a therapist like myself works with powerful therapies like hypnosis, NLP, IEMT, NLP, counselling or any other tools I use to change anxiety. With your curiosity in mind I thought I would write a short article hopefully answering any questions you may have. If I have not then you can always contact me to ask me directly what you want to know. I work in Brighton & Hove or online with people around the country or world.
The biggest frustration many people have with anxiety is that they know their thoughts and reactions are in their words “stupid.” They hate the irrational dark thoughts which create behaviours and feelings they know deep down, simply are not right and out of context with the situation. Feeling powerless adds to the anxiety and they simply do not know what to do next to help themselves and it’s not as if we learn how to manage the mind in school is it? In my view it’s pot luck as to what happens next when faced with an over active limbic system which is the survival and emotional centre of the brain.
Imagine an area of your brain which scans like a radar all of life around you and reacts in an instant to anything which threatens your wellbeing. It does this brilliantly by locking out any part of you which will question the danger so you react on instinct instead as the questioning may take up precious life saving time. This really works well in real life threatening danger but in today’s society where we have never been so safe in our history, this reaction causes more harm than good. As most clients will tell me, fear of fear is a real problem for them as they hate it when their minds kick into reactive survival mode when it’s completely unnecessary.
Why does it do it?
There can be many reasons but here are some common ones:
Traumatic past experiences creating memories which are referenced unfairly to protect them from future harm.
Suppressed anger from childhood or past experiences.
Guilt from past experiences (never underestimate the power of guilt, if it wasn’t for this one I wouldn’t have so many Catholic clients. Sad but true.)
A combination of past experiences which have stimulated the limbic system to be over worked.
Stress (they are calling this the black death of the 21st century, it’s not an exaggeration either).
Interesting but poor lifestyle choices with drugs, drink, food etc
More clients are mentioning to me how their minds seemed to change after smoking the stronger forms of weed out there. Mind bending drugs seems to live up to their name but I bet the smoker wasn’t thinking about developing paranoia for months or years after as side effect.
What does hypnosis do then?
Well it’s not a magic cure that’s for sure but it’s powerful enough when combined with other therapies to change the way the brain is perceiving danger. Which results in a more calmer and confident attitude. Each client is different so using just one therapy is in my opinion a bit limited so a combination is used to help get each person to where they want to be as quickly, thoroughly and as successfully as possible.
Hypnosis is an altered state of mind which people can experience in different ways, some feel likes it’s day dreaming, some feel deep in some sort of trance, some remember nothing, some remember everything. The best part of my work is to help each client learn to learn self hypnosis and program their own minds to change as who want’s to rely on a therapist to do it? In my view part of the mind change is to go from powerless to powerful by being empowered to handle their own emotional states and program their own minds. Programming takes place through verbal, visual and feeling suggestions which influence how the mind processes life around you. Hypnotherapy is simply hypnosis with the therapy part added to influence positive change in the mind. My work always focuses on the limbic system becoming calmer and more proactive instead of reactive.
As one client remarked me to a few weeks ago “I can sort of remember what you said but it felt like my brain was being rewired. I just feel differently about that situation now, almost as if it never happened to me and it doesn’t matter anymore.”
That client in particular was able to carry on their own programming to continue their own progress as they had other goals in mind to use it for.
Hypnotherapy does work differently on some people as yes it’s true it’s all about who is more perceptible my work takes that into account, still making the combination approach is the best likely way to get the results desired.
Another way of working is through the client appearing to receive counselling, not that I am giving to give much away but I use the power of suggestion through our conversations to enhance our work together. The session is as proactive as I can make it, what happens next is the hopefully honest feedback which then gives me the information to fine tune further sessions to get the results wanted.
Will I need lots of sessions?
I have no idea how many sessions someone will need. I can only work as thoroughly, quickly and as successfully as I can by dealing with symptoms and the possible root of the problem. I do get clients who want me to just treat the symptoms which is really the lazy approach for the therapist and doesn’t treat the problem. It’s quick and easy money for the therapist who doesn’t care about ethics or having the client relapse in the future. The client only comes when they can afford it and between sessions are given plenty to do to continue their own progress.
Can’t you just do what Derren Brown or Paul Mckenna does on the television?
The people you see on these programmes have often gone through quite a few elimination processes to see if they are going to be susceptible for the dramatic results you see on television. You don’t get to see who hasn’t made the grade for good television and I don’t and can’t just pick the clients who I think will make me look like a better therapist. I have a great success rate which improves all the time through my passion in learning new ways of working with the mind and developing strategies for handling life feeling more confident, calm and in control. I am not the perfect therapist who promises what I cannot deliver, your mind is a grand experiment using therapies which with some personal tuning can deliver some powerful results. There’s no guarantee but I can do my best as all I am interested in is getting you to have the life you could have.
After all my motto is “life is simply too short not to.”