Anxiety and the flake
Anxiety and the Flake
Are you a flake or do you have flaky friends?
Anxiety is a growing problem in the Brighton and due to the amount of clients in the past few years suffering with anxiety I have noticed a few patterns one of which is the subject of this blog.
A section of people suffering with anxiety are flakes.
The term flake not only refers to a chocolate bar which just fall apart when trying to eat it, but also refers to a behaviour pattern which can feed anxiety. If you are experiencing anxiety or a rough time in life and identify with the flaky behaviour listed below then think about changing this part of your life as the benefits are enormous.
Flakes are people who are in general:
Indecisive
Very, very, very busy
Don’t tend to arrive on time and terrible with time management
Drama magnets and creators
Seem to attract bad luck
Won’t commit to much just in case something better comes along
Elaborate liars
Often knackered and drained which can lead to more illness than usual
Moaners and often despite claims of being positive easily snap due to their negative views of life
Flakes also send out messages unconsciously which can tell people:
They can’t be trusted
There is something wrong with them
They can’t commit despite their promises
The mind loves a path to follow, a destination and a way to get there. The mind hates uncertainty and there is nothing more uncertain than a flaky life. The lies, the drama, the fear of not being in the right place or doing the right thing, the drama, the stress from being overly busy just puts pressure on the mind which over time will have consequences and can lead to depression.
The language of a flake is a dead giveaway as its non committal so watch out for:
Possibly
Maybe
Could be
It’s about
I think
I will try
Going with the flow
And anything else that literally casts doubts over what is being said or promised. There is a huge difference between “I will do” and “I will try”. It’s understandable why people are flaky as the pressure of commitment can create anxiety which then creates the flaky behaviour. Working on anxiety, fears of commitment or what is causing procrastination can help end the flaky behaviour.
Non Flakes are:
Focused
More confident
Able to see clearly with their clarity
Calmer and more relaxed
Trusted
Successful
Happier
Telling us that there is something right about them
Healthier
So what can you do?
First of all, start becoming aware of any flaky non committal language and change it to something more solid
Commit to doing things regardless of what might come along that may be better
Learn time management skills and be on time
Start dropping the drama from your life and moving away from others who create it
Take some time out to chill and relax as this helps your mind heal, drop the guilt from not being productive as relaxing is the most productive activity for your mind
Focus on what you want to experience more of in your future and create plans and small steps to help get you there. Without a strategy or making the goal too huge your mind will procrastinate
Therapy and mind coaching can help you start disciplining your mind to be more solid and also help you create a balance with flexibility and commitment working in harmony together. Anxiety really can be transformed when certainty is part of your life in a more productive way.
If you would like to have a chat about anything in my blogs which resonates with you then please contact me through my website www.the-life-doctor.com and I will look forward to hearing from you.
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